A few days before I turned 15, my mom and my dad separated. Needless to say, that wasn’t the best time in my life. I was angry at one for this and angry at the other for that. I really took it hard. The holidays were tough to get through but I managed.
It took a little while, but my mom started dating again. It was hard for her to find someone she really liked and felt a connection with. She reminded me of a teenager in a sense, one date today another tomorrow with someone else. But she seemed to be enjoying herself, so I was happy for her. Or at least I was as happy as I could be being as how I had never seen her with anybody else but my dad.
As I said before, my mom wasn’t having any luck in the love department. I saw a side of her I had never seen before. Instead of just reminding me of a teenager, she acted just like one. She had a new boyfriend every week it seemed like. I didn’t care for any of them really, there were a few that were ok, but none that I could see myself getting along great with. Oddly enough she seemed to like playing the field.
Looking back on those days I have come to realize that my mom was just like Desperate Housewives’ Edie Britt. Edie is one of the wives on the show. She used to have a tenancy to breeze in and out of a relationship quite quickly. Edie enjoyed the way she lived her life, just like my mom did when she was out on the dating scene. My mom thought she had found love a time or two, as had Edie on the show. And she got hurt a few times, just like Edie had. My mom always kept a smile on, as to not show us how hurt she had been. And, even though she didn’t think I knew, she sometimes hid how happy she was. I think she thought I would resent her for being so happy so soon after the divorce. Edie was similar; she always seemed to stay strong whenever a relationship wasn’t going right.
I am happy to say that my mom is happily married now, has been for the past two years. Edie is also happily married on the show. I will never forget how my mom used to be 3 years ago and how she and Edie, even though she is a fictional character, remind me of each other.
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That's pretty interesting and an good comparisons of the two. It's kind of nice that you have watched your mom settle down and at the same time someone on your favorite TV show has as well. I think it usually helps someone through emotionally tough times when they can see similar things going on in someone's life, fictional or not.
ReplyDeleteI love how open you were. Your post was one of my favorite to read. It just shows what a strong person you are. And I agree with ranc1d. When I am having a rough time it always help me to relate to shows and movies. Even though you know it is not real, you just don't feel as alone. Its great to know that you could forgive and forget. I have never watched the show personally, But I see what you are saying. And I think every body should have a show to get them through.
ReplyDeleteThat is an interesting comparison. Seeing your parents divorce is tough, I know from experience. It takes a lot to post something like this. Sometimes it helps ease the pain to see others in the same situation, even if they are fictional. It reminds you that you aren't the only person with problems in the world. Great blog!
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